Sophia's Story
Fifth pregnancy, one beautiful child, loving boyfriend and wanting an abortion...

This is my fifth pregnancy, I found out last week, and must be about one month along.

At first I was elated. Finally! A sibling for my daughter who I adore. But as the days pass, I am less happy, and am now thinking of an abortion.

The reason is I do not want a man in my life. I want to be alone. I do not want a man following me around for the rest of my days, or keeping me from moving because I've had his child. And my boyfriend is such a man. He is kind, loving, noble, hard working and honest. He is any other woman's dream man of the universe. Yet every time he opens his mouth I cringe, and admit I was only with him for the sex, which was always fabulous.

There were times when I thought he would make an ideal father. He would take such good care of us. But I cannot stand his simple-mindedness. We have nothing in common, and rarely have complex conversations. There is no connection there, other than sex.

I want to have this baby for my daughter, but also want to have the abortion to avoid having this man in my life forever. What do I do? I don't think I can bear another abortion. The last one permanently scarred me, emotionally. I will forever regret it and miss that baby every day of my life. But I cannot bear living with this man either. Oh, what do I do?

7 May 2000

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