Monique's Story

I visited this site this week following a desperate search on the Internet for something/someone who has gone through what I am about to. Tomorrow I have an appointment, I will be 6 weeks.

Currently I have a six year old daughter which I conceived when I was 17. The day I found out I was pregnant with her, I knew in my heart and soul that she was sent to me, this was something I wanted more than life itself. Against everyone's wishes I went ahead with the pregnancy. I raised her as a single mother and she pushed me to achieve every goal in my life - 3 Year College degree by 22 years of age and an excellent career.

My family ended up quickly supporting my decision, and I truly believe I defied all the odds. Hence, I know that anything is possible, that YOU CAN DO IT. Society is busy making Women believe that we are useless at completing anything alone, and cannot accomplish anything without a man at our side. I know differently.

However, at 24, working and living with a man I plan to spend the rest of my life with - some would think I am 'ready' and fully capable of raising a child. The truth is, I just don't want this.

I am finally learning to love myself, be the best mom I can be to my daughter and grow as a person. I am making this choice because that is what it is - A CHOICE - MY CHOICE. I am not doing this because of my mother, the father or society. I am doing this because I want to do this. I have made so many decisions in my life for everyone else, I have to live with my choices. And this is the right choice for me. I made the choice 6 years ago as I make this decision today, for me.

My advice to every women out there who is faced with this decision, is to base it on your choice and beliefs. You are not a bad person, nor someone who is incapable of raising a baby. You can and will find the strength to accomplish ANYTHING you put your heart into. And if your decision is like my current, be strong and believe in your choice because only YOU know what is best for YOU.

Monique
22 September 1999