I find myself, for the first time, thoughtful,
as I write a check for FWHC, and send this check with mixed emotions...something
of a paradox.
I support you without question. Thinking back to fifteen
or twenty years ago, I'm incredibly thankful that abortion was available to me,
in different times, in vastly different circumstances, and I was trying so hard
to be responsible about birth control.
I know with certainty that I could not have been a mom at those times in my life.
I had no question in my mind, then. I have learned to grieve the loss of those
babies and my decisions to abortion them.
It's a different time now, and
I'm in the process of international adoption. I want to be a mom more than anything
else I can think of. And I'm thankful that somewhere in Guatemala, a woman has
chosen to give birth to the child who will be hers and mine. Karma will connect
us...She will lose her child, somehow, and will hopefully know also that her giving
birth gives this child life...in my life.
So, what's my paradox? The world
is not perfect. I wish for more availability of birth control, I wish for more
choice, I wish for the availability of abortion as an option. This has been my
wish forever, for our country and around the whole entire world. Too many babies
are born without love and without families.
And, in my search for motherhood
and adoption research, I come to know that adoption should be a big part of choice,
as well. If every woman in the world had birth control and abortion options, those
of us who want to adopt would not have that option. My heart aches, also, knowing
that the world will never be perfect...that there are babies born every day who
will not have a life beyond poverty, death, the streets, orphanages, or foster
care if they're lucky, maybe...And it's not just Third World countries, it's right
here among us.
So, as I write a check to you for more than I've ever given
in the past, I think about this paradox, my support for both adoption and abortion,
and I'm giving to you and to adoption agencies also (those who are doing giving
around the world, not just the one I'm working with), to somehow resolve my feelings
With love and regard for the incredible work that you're doing,Kim
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are repeatedly accused of taking things personally. I cannot see any other honest
way of taking them."
- Marya Mannes, born 1904