I am 18 and have a 11-month-old daughter.
I had her alone, her father does not want to be part of our lives. I met a man
while I was pregnant and fell in love. He loves my daughter like his own.
wanted a baby so bad, so I have just found out I was pregnant from him. But not
soon enough, he just broke up with me. He thought I cheated on him, which I never
have, so now he says he won't be with me. He wants this baby still and says to
give it to him to care for when I have it.
But it's hard - how am I supposed
to go through pregnancy alone depressed again. My daughter was born 3 weeks early
at only 4 pounds, and they don't know why. I know, because I was sad and alone.
But this time I am worse because I love this guy and I feel sad to lose
him over something I didn't do. I feel like I cannot go through this pregnancy,
I am treating my daughter differently because I am so depressed. I feel in my
heart I can't go through this again, yet I feel sorry for this baby because it's
not this baby's fault. What should I do?????
I cannot tell you what
to do. I can encourage you to trust your own heart, your gut feeling, your inner
voice... Once you make a decision, believe in yourself for making the right
decision for you.
See the "Pregnant?
Need Help?" workbook designed for women or girls
who are unsure. It covers all three choices--parenting,
abortion, and adoption evenhandedly, and focuses on how you feel.
Watch out for fake abortion
clinics offering free pregnancy tests.
Gain strength from other women by reading
more stories in this website
(click on "back").
Abortion Federation offers some questions to consider if you are unsure about
what to do.
more stories -- share your story
we didn't see was that we were all the same people we were before we came here
and we brought the past, meaning the patriarchy, here with us. It will be a long
and continuing process to purge ourselves of the culture we grew up in. Perhaps,
it cannot even be done in our lifetime. Perhaps only our daughters, who will not
learn the ways of men will be truly free."
- by Juana Maria Paz in 1980