One week ago today I did something I
never thought I would do. I had an abortion. Not that I'm against them, I have
always been pro-choice. There's a word for you, Choice, I guess I made mine before
I even got pregnant, because once I was, I knew I didn't have one. Not if I wanted
to stay married. And I do.
I am a 35 year old mother of four, happily married
to a man I really love. A man who has also had a vasectomy. I don't know why,
but I cheated on my husband. We were careless and I ended up pregnant. I feel
very stupid that I got pregnant to begin with, it's not like we were uninformed
kids. And I feel very selfish that I had to end a life. But if I didn't, too many
other lives would have been affected, and that too, to me seems selfish.
past month has been the most emotional time in my life. I am very grateful to
have found this web site. Reading the stories of the other women here really helped
me before my abortion, and even now it makes me feel less alone.
I am also
grateful to all the people at the clinic I went to. Not once did I feel that anyone
was judging me. Everyone made me feel at ease, at a time that I wasn't. My Doctor
was amazing, he put me at ease, and made me feel comfortable at a very awkward
moment. I am very grateful to and for him and others like him, who take the chance
to help women who are making the hardest decision of their lives. He helped me
get through the procedure, and gave me the okay to feel relieved after it was
And I did, I felt relief. Although I am not happy about what I had
to do, and I am grieving, I am glad I had the choice and the procedure available
22 June 1999
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abortion is too murkey a subject for politicians to resolve. And that is precisely
why women should be left to resolve it, privately."
not her real name