Amanda's Story

My husband and I wanted a baby more than anything in the world. We were so happy when we found out we were going to have one. Then about 6 months into the pregnancy we found out our baby had a severe case of open spina bifida. The Dr's told us that the baby would be brain damaged, paralyzed and have to go through many surgeries just to stay alive. Our dreams were destroyed, and we couldn't bear the thought of having our baby go through a life time of pain and suffering. So we decided to go to an abortion clinic around where we live.

After arriving we found out is was horrible, vile place who dealt with day to day abortions and could have cared less. They just suck the baby and go on to the next one. Needless to say we left.

Dr.Tiller was recommended to us by our maternal fetal medicine Dr. We decided to make the trip. Dr.Tiller and his staff made us feel like they understood and we weren't just another abortion, and saying goodbye to our baby was the hardest thing we had to do, but in the end it was the right thing. We love our baby like any normal parents more I think, but they helped us come to peace with our hardest decision.

Now 1yr later we are expecting our next child who we love just as much, and we will never forget our baby boy. To this day I still believe for us to suffer was better off than having our baby suffer his whole life. I would recommend Dr.Tiller to anyone with this had decision.

17 August 2002

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