Sibylle's Story

I am a mature and responsible woman (39). Although I am happily married, I have no desire WHATSOEVER to become pregnant. A few years ago I asked to have my tubes tied, but was refused this procedure since I didn't have any children and "could still change my mind." Well, I didn't and never will.

What I like most about children is that they I can give them back to their parents when they misbehave. I am clever enough to KNOW that I am not patient nor self-sacrificing enough to have children. I feel that many woman are emotionally forced into having children even though they themselves KNOW that they won't make good parents -- and the result is that they raise kids up the only way they know how: the 'wrong way' -- causing emotional and physical abuse to children who will grow up into dysfunctional adults.

Anyway, even though I took contraceptives I am pregnant now. Since I am Rh Negative (and I had a previous abortion eleven years ago) I feel as sick as can be, and I know it's not going to get any better. I am now looking into going to Mexico to get certain drugs to help me get a 'medical abortion' as opposed to a surgical one. I would rather not go through a surgical one again.

Many women choose to be "child free." Terri Casey is author of a new book called "Pride & Joy: The Lives and Passions of Women Without Children" (1998, Beyond Words Publishing, $14.95)

Sibylle may not have to travel to Mexico. "Medical Abortion" is rapidly becoming more widely available using Methotrexate alone or Methotrexate with Misoprostol. Also, there is a new early abortion using an Ipass syringe for suction rather than a machine.

Also some clinics provide RU-486 under special arrangements as part of medical research